How to pray through your dating experiences
Sometimes when we think about prayer we think it should only apply to more ‘spiritual’ things, or serious things such as praying for healing or protection or God’s provision. But it’s amazing to know that God is interested in every area of our lives- including who we date and eventually marry. Prayer is actually not complicated; it is simply having a conversation with God. So, how exactly do you pray through your dating experiences?
I believe if we commit our dating life to God, He will lead us, and we will avoid many of the mistakes that people tend to make when dating. Learning how to pray through your dating experiences will really help.
Pray from the start
It’s important to include God in every phase of your dating life. When you first decide to be intentional about meeting someone, talk to God about it. Let Him know the kind of person you’d like to meet and pray about how you should go about it.
Different methods of dating work for some but not for others. Do you want to try online dating? Speed dating? Attend more social events for single people? Or all of the above? Praying about it can help you decide on the best method that will work for you.
Pray about what to write
When you’ve decided, what else? Well, you can pray about what you put on your profile, if you decide to go with online dating, for example. You may be surprised that one little piece of information on your profile may be the thing that draws someone in, to find out more about you.
I did just that when I looked into online dating years ago; I was prayerful and intentional about what I put on my profile, and I noticed my (now) husband’s profile because there were things on there that made me want to find out more.
Pray about where to go
When we pray, God answers, and His Spirit can nudge us to include (or not include) something that could pique the interest of the right person. The same applies if you’re meeting people more organically, e.g. through social events. You can pray that God will order your steps so you meet the right people, and also lead you away from anyone that isn’t right for you.
Pray about who to contact
This also applies to when you’re dating online and messaging people. Pray about the people you should open up to, and those that you should just ignore or maybe, only be friends with (if they’re open to that). Praying for open doors when it’s the right person and closed doors when it isn’t is a prayer that God will answer.
Pray as you get to know someone
Once you meet someone and you’re getting to know them, prayer is still important. I remember praying about my husband before we officially became a couple and asking God if I should pursue the relationship or not. I wasn’t sure because he didn’t ‘tick all my boxes’ (I know!).
But, I had a peace about him that I hadn’t had in previous relationships and I sensed God saying to give him a chance and get to know him. I did just that, and the rest, as they say is history!
Once you’ve started a relationship with someone, you can pray about what to share and what not to, when to share certain aspects of your life (e.g., introduce them to close friends and family), when to raise certain topics of conversation, and ultimately, whether to take the relationship to the next level.
The Bible tells us to pray always. There is no aspect of our lives that God isn’t interested in, or that we can’t talk to God about. So, if you don’t already pray through your dating experiences, why not start now?
Enjoyed reading ‘How to pray through your dating experiences?’ Read more on prayer on the Christian Connection blog: ‘The importance of praying for what you want when it comes to marriage‘, ‘5 tips for a powerful single prayer life‘, ‘Intimacy with God when you are single‘