If you’re single you may be thinking, ‘When is it going to be my turn?’, or ‘What am I doing wrong?’ You may not be doing anything wrong per se, but if you would like to meet that special someone, here are a few good habits to develop whilst single.

‘As a single person, I dread Christmas,’ wrote an on-line pal. ‘My family live too far away to visit, and my friends disappear to spend time with their own families. For me, Christmas and new year are the loneliest times of the year…’

It’s been a while since you were last flying solo and perhaps you saw it coming, but perhaps you didn’t. Perhaps you’re very happy about it; you’re moving on from something that turned out not to be right for you, full of hope and anticipation of what lies ahead – the dating scene seems full of opportunity and prospects, meeting new people is an exciting new journey upon which you’re more than ready to embark. Or perhaps it’s feels more like singledoom…you’re disappointed, disillusioned maybe even broken hearted and singleness is unwelcome, daunting, a distant memory you hadn’t envisaged you’d be revisiting. So, whether your glass is half full or half empty, here’s some practical suggestions when returning to the single life:

In East Asia, there are more singles than ever before. But many say they don’t want to be in a relationship at all. Why are so many people shunning romance?

I’ve been serving in Christian singles social groups for the past 10 years. When I first got involved a regular theme of discussion was ‘The Church should be doing more for singles’.
However, when I began to organise events for Christian singles, I realised that we were a huge group of very capable and talented people who had the potential to organise ourselves, and to offer the Church support in its efforts to understand and serve us. We can start to make a difference to a church culture that is often focused more on couples and children.

It’s a question commonly asked by Christians, particularly women: “Why are there more single women than single men, in our churches?” New research helps to shed some light on the subject and provide some answers to this question.

Praise be to the Lord my Rock, who trains my hands for war, my fingers for battle. He is my loving God and my fortress, my stronghold and my deliverer, my shield, in whom I take refuge, who subdues peoples under me. Lord, what are human beings that you care for them, mere mortals that you think of them? (Psalm 144:1-3)

Yes you can! Now you might be thinking, “What are you, crazy?! I dread Valentine’s Day.” Such pressure, the spotlight on me as a single, the pity of relatives, the platitudes from married church folk, the disregard from certain greeting card firms, the smugness of the happy loved up couples. Not to mention the accusations of being “too picky, too selfish, too old, too independent, too needy etc…” Embrace Valentine’s Day?!*!?